There is a tendency these days to assume that spirits (with a little work) are eager to help us and that contact with them is a necessary and beneficial process. For example, I have seen many instances where an individual visits a spiritist, santero or palero. The individual is told they have a “spirit close to them” such as a gypsy. The person is instructed to pay attention to the spirit, giving it prayers, candles, coffee, etc. But what no one may realize, is that yes, the spirit is indeed close to the person, but that it is not a good thing the person is giving attention to the spirit.
In the instance of the gypsy spirit, she in life may have had a difficult upbringing that pushed her to be conniving and rather resourceful in obtaining goods or thieving. By working with that spirit, one is strengthening it. The person is giving it energy to be able to intervene in this world, and to influence thoughts and behavior. Soon the person is experiencing problems in his or her life. The person may even start to exhibit behaviors the spirit was partial too in life. The spirit may even drag down and ruin the person’s life.
A key thing to remember is that spirits feed off of energy. Where does this energy come from? You.
As the spirit continues to feed off of your energy, your own personal reserves of energy become depleted. Health problems, emotional troubles, discord and a host of other problems may ensue as your life gets out of balance.
In the African Traditional Religions (ATR) and spiritist communities we are always seeing and hearing about examples of people being “cursed,” “worked,” “crossed,” or “attacked by sent spirits.” In all likelihood, much if not most of this activity comes from spirits the person is attending and not an outside source. This turmoil occurs for two reasons: the first is that spirits feed vampire like on your spiritual and physical energies, this creates and imbalance that is reflected in your personal life. The second reason is that spirits feed off of the energies generated by strong emotions. The more troubles, crisis and drama that exists, the better it is for the spirit. They will therefore often stir up problems to be able to feed off of the resulting emotions and turmoil.
There is also another important observation I have made through the years. Sometimes an un-elevated spirit has good information and advice and presents it to a medium. The medium conveys it to the person that has the spirit as a literally a ‘familiar’ because it walks with the person, and the person is impressed by the advice. This develops an emotional bond between said person and the spirit. Emotional bonds are like ideas, difficult to dislodge from the mind. Therefore, once the spirit secures this connection, it is literally free to cause trouble and mischief, to present false information and to create even undesirable physical manifestations. All of these usually goes unsuspected until it is caused enough damage.